Life Lesson #381

Someone once told me, "Brittany, you have to let them (them being a single person) go. It's like trying to hold on to a bar of soap in the shower, the harder you squeeze and try to hold on the faster they slip away." To this I replied, "Nuh-huh, you just dig in your nails and then you can hold it and it can't slip away." I think life is like this, you can't stop time, you cna't hang on to it forever. You can't pick the scene you like like best and stop your life there and keep it like that forever. You can try, but the harder you try the more it will feel like you are losing control and the faster it will slip away, and in the end you'll have been so concerned with hanging on to the scene that you'll have missed part of the play. Although at the time I did not agree with the person who told me the cheesy soap thing, I do now. I had to let them go and looking back it was best for all parties involved. You can't hang on to people forever. You can dig your nails into the soap and hold it for a little longer but eventually it still slips away. Only difference is that now it is scarred and has cuts in it and you've tried that much harder and still not been able to hold it. You can try to "dig in" and do all in your power to keep life right where you want it and to hang on to people but in the end, if they're not meant to stay for life or it's not God's will that they become a life-long friend, they will still slip away. And if you've tried to hold on they will slip away with a little more hurt and scarring. I found this awhile back and I like it so here it is:

A Reason, A Season Or A Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a god-send, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, your desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered, and now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a season, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Regardless of whether the people in your life are here for a reason, a season or a lifetime, show them that you love them!